Okay, real talk. When you choose your wedding videographer, it is one of the most important decisions you will make for your day — and not just because of the final film. This is someone who is going to be with you all day. During the nervous bit before the ceremony. During the ugly cry. During the dancing-with-your-nan bit at 10pm.
Does their style feel like you — or like a trend you like watching?
Scroll through their work. Now ask yourself honestly: can you imagine yourselves in those films? Not “does this look beautiful” — but “does this feel like us?”
Because there’s a real difference between a style that looks stunning on your phone screen and one that will feel true when you watch it on your sofa in ten years’ time.
Do you want to enjoy your wedding — or perform it?
Some videographers need hours of posing, staging, and recreating moments. Others (hi, that’s me) would rather just… follow you around and catch what actually happens.
Neither is wrong. But be honest with yourselves. Do you want to be directed all day, or do you want to forget the camera is even there?
Always do a call before you choose your wedding videographer.
I cannot stress this enough.
A huge following tells you nothing about what someone is actually like as a human. I’ve heard stories of videographers who looked incredible online and turned up on the day with the energy of someone who found the whole thing mildly inconvenient.
And the opposite is true too — someone with a smaller portfolio can be wildly talented and an absolute joy to have around.
You’ll know within five minutes of talking whether the energy is right. Trust that feeling.
Ask to see a full film — not just the highlights.
Instagram reels are designed to impress. They’re the greatest hits, perfectly cut to a banger.
But a full wedding film? That’s where you see whether someone can actually tell a story. Whether the pacing feels right. Whether you’d want to watch it more than once.
Ask for one. Then ask yourselves: is this how we want our day to feel when we look back at it?
Better questions to ask when you choose your wedding videographer.
Instead of “what’s your style?” — which will get you a very polished non-answer — try:
“How do you actually work with couples on the day?”
Do they pose you and guide you into shots? Or do they hang back and let things happen? Do they blend into the background or do they become part of the day? Your experience on the day matters just as much as the film you get at the end of it.
Think about your guests too.
Your wedding isn’t just the two of you — it’s your people. The ones who cried when you got engaged, who’ve known you since you were small, who travelled to be there.
How does this videographer treat them? Do they make guests feel relaxed or a bit watched? Do they notice the quiet moments — the grandparent sitting to one side, the friend who drove six hours to be there?
The magic is usually in those in-between moments. You want someone who knows that.
One videographer or two?
Tell them your guest count and just ask. A good videographer will be straight with you about what one person can realistically cover and what you’d gain from having a second.
It’s not upselling. It’s just useful information. And you deserve to make that call knowing all the facts.
When will you actually get your film?
Wedding season is busy. Delivery times vary — some videographers turn things around in eight weeks, others take closer to five months.
Ask upfront so you’re not anxiously checking your inbox every other day like you’re waiting for exam results.
And just so you know — a longer wait often means more care went into it. Good editing takes time. That’s not a bad thing.
The most important question when you choose your wedding videographer.
The most important thing to think about when you choose your wedding videographer is actually the simplest one.
You can love someone’s work and still feel a bit off about the vibe. And that feeling matters. A lot.
Your videographer is going to be there during some of the most emotional, intimate, unrepeatable moments of your life. You want to feel completely at ease with them — not like you have to be “on” for them.
So ask yourself: could I just be myself around this person?
If yes — that’s your person. Take your time, trust your instincts, and choose your wedding videographer the way you’d choose anyone you want by your side on the most important day of your life.
Want to see how I work? Read more about my approach or get in touch and let’s have a chat. You can also find inspiration and real wedding stories on The Lane.
